i want him to notice me
i will feel empty if he doesn’t
i want to be confirmed in my feminine identity
I see your body—BEAUTY!
I want it for myself—CONQUEST!
I want it for me—CONQUER!
Will you have sex with me?
Don’t tell your parents.
I might love you.
I might want to marry you.
I might not.
I might actually already be married.
Will you take this pill so I don’t have to pay…or feel?
Will you let me wear this plastic even though pleasure decreases and irritation increases?
Just to make sure.
I don’t want HIV.
Let’s do it.
Take this and go there.
I am outta here.
It is by knowledge of the genuine conditions of our life that we must draw our strength to live and our reason for acting.
–Simone de Beauvoir, The Ethics of Ambiguity
From the studies of de Beauvoir…
bad faith is surrendering your liberty by surrendering your responsibility, is being static as a thing: I just am who I am, is taking meaning for self from the opinions of others, and objectifying oneself
authenticity is acknowledging freedom and your responsibility to keep it, is acknowledging that you are not a thing but a person who can grow and learn more about self by setting out to know by acknowledging the true conditions of your life and by acknowledging that you don’t yet know what being woman means…
What kind of person do you want to be?
*The poem’s original title was “free prostitution,” but I thought this worked so much better. Let me know what you think…
One final thought as to whether atheists can lead people to Christian thought: I wonder why he couldn’t admit that Madame de Beauvoir could lead people to the Church? I daresay she has led a many a one (Flannery O’Connor, Letters…179).